Dating Advice
How to Make Women
Want You
By Terry Hernon
MacDonald
You don’t need a guitar, rock-hard abs, or even a
full head of hair to make a great impression on a woman. Follow
these tips, and she’ll want to hear from you again real
soon:
1. Go out with another
woman. If you’re going out to a club or a bar, take a female
friend or your sister with you. Women are often more amenable to
talking to men who are with other women. It gives them the feeling
that you actually like women, and that’s attractive. If your
female friend is outgoing, see if she’ll make small talk with
somebody you’d like to meet. She can say something along the lines
of, “I love your necklace!” and that should do it. After a little
back-and-forth, your friend can say, “Oh, how rude of me. This is
my friend Andy,” and you’re in business.
2. Look women in the eye. It
seems elementary, but you’d be surprised at how many guys either
undress a woman with their eyes or avoid eye contact altogether.
Women love it when you look them in the eye.
3. Don’t try to “buy” her.
If you buy her a drink, she is obligated to say thank you and
that’s it. If she accepts the drink, the polite thing for her to
do would be to spend a little time talking to you, but that’s all.
On the other hand, if a woman takes the drink and walks away, let
her go. You wouldn’t want spend time with her, anyway. Trust
me.
4. Find out her interests.
Get her talking about what she’s crazy about, whether it’s David
Bowie or the New York Mets. If you don’t get it, you can say
something like, “You know, I’m not too familiar with Bowie. What
CD would you recommend?” Or, “I’m more into football than
baseball. What is it about baseball that you like?” Ask a woman
her opinion, and you’ll have her eating out of your hand (we have
more in common with guys than you think).
5. Listen more, talk less.
Hey, I’m not suggesting that you let her do all the talking, but
some guys meet a woman and then never shut up. Don’t try to
impress her! Don’t brag about your GPA at Harvard, the Jag in your
driveway, or the fact that you’re CEO of a tuna fish conglomerate.
You’ll get precisely the kind of woman you don’t want, the one
who’s only into you for your achievements and possessions, rather
than for who you really are. Instead, ask questions and listen for
the answers. Give your opinions. Get to know the woman. Let her
get to know you.
6. Be optimistic. In other
words, this is no time to discuss how oil prices are going through
the roof, what a witch your ex-girlfriend was, or that your
parents never gave you enough attention. If you run out of things
to talk about, ask her if she’s seen the latest hit at the box
office.
7. Be chaste. Do not try to
go to bed with a woman right away. Sure, there’s a chance that if
you go for it, she will, but if you’re hoping for a lasting
relationship, you set up all sorts of weirdness if you “do it” too
soon. Crazy as it sounds, if she sleeps with you, she may not
respect you in the morning (you didn’t know that, did you?).
She’ll figure that you get into bed with every woman you meet,
which pretty much rules you out as boyfriend material. (Or she may
be the type who thinks you owe her because she slept with you,
which makes her really bad girlfriend material.) Save yourself
undue angst and get to know a person before getting into bed with
her.
8. Make a great exit. If you
want to see her again, ask for her number (preface this with
something casual, “Maybe we can get together some time.”). Then
touch her shoulder (a little restraint is sexier here; don’t try
to kiss her) and tell her you’ll be in touch. Then leave. If your
friends aren’t ready to go yet, tell her you have to hang out with
them. Walk away. The key here is to keep her wanting
more.
9. Call her. If you said you
were going to call, you can avoid looking desperate by waiting two
days, but no longer. A plea on behalf of the female sex: If you’re
not interested in a woman, do not—I repeat—do not say you’ll call.
Say, “Nice meeting you,” and be on your way. Besides, collecting
numbers to feed your ego is kind of sad.
10. Treat women as you’d
have them treat you. The media have brainwashed us to believe that
men and women come from different planets, but we’re all human.
Some of the biggest losers in love are women who complain that all
men are the same, they all want one thing, and so on. But it’s
equally sad when a guy assumes all women are like his mother or
his psychopathic ex-girlfriend. You’ll enjoy astonishing success
with women if you understand two simple facts: We’re people. We're
more like you than you think.
About The Author
Terry Hernon MacDonald writes frequently about
dating and relationships. She is the Internet radio host of
"Romance Talk with Terry" at http://healthylife.net and the
author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Visit
her website at http://www.marrysmart.com
terry@marrysmart.com
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