Dating Advice
Good Places to Meet
Excellent Men
By Terry
Hernon MacDonald
So, you’re convinced that you have zero
opportunities to meet men.
Are you stuck in an office all day with the same
stiffs day in and day out? Have you tried singles’ dances, only to
leave feeling worse than when you went in? Did the last loser your
aunt set you up with squash your Chihuahua when he screeched up
the driveway?
Well, don’t fret. I have some ideas for you. While
advice columnists steer single women into churches to meet honest,
loyal, and successful men, I wouldn’t dream of it. Church is
great for communing with God, but it never struck me as the best
place to meet a man. People, including me, are on our best
behavior at church. If you’d rather meet a man where he’s more
likely to be himself, here are my top three
recommendations:
1. A bar, specifically
during Monday Night Football. Football season is a great time to
meet men who flock to taverns to watch the NFL. When I was single,
I loved going to Monday Night Football (even though I didn’t
really understand the game) because the bar was filled with mostly
single men, there was a free buffet, and the atmosphere was merry.
Advice columnists usually tell women to stay out of bars if they
want to meet suitable men, but I disagree. It’s important to see
how a man drinks, and how he behaves under the influence of
alcohol. Does he get wasted and drive home? Or, does he have a
couple of beers and switch to water before he leaves? Does he
smack the bartender in the head when his team loses, or does he
remain amiable? There are things you can learn in a bar about a
man that you never will in church. Bring a friend with you and
make having fun, not hooking up, your first priority. You may have
to show up three weeks in a row before anybody shows interest in
you (or, then again, maybe not). Keep in mind that different bars
attract different types of people. If you don’t like the crowd in
one bar, try another place next time.
2. A class. I know, I know.
You’ve heard this one before, but have you ever tried it? Let me
tell you a story: My friend Brian’s longtime girlfriend dropped
him for another guy. After grieving for a while, he dusted himself
off and signed up for a cooking class. See, Brian loves to cook,
but he put off pursuing formal training while he was with
What’s-Her-Name. Once she was out of the picture, though, he
decided to register for a course, figuring he’d meet many
likeminded women there. Sure enough, he did. I advise you to
write down a list of hobbies you’d like to explore and figure out
which of them would also appeal to men. Then sign up for a class
or join a club. See what happens.
3. Throw a party. While
Brian did meet lots of women at the cooking class, he didn’t fall
in love with any of them. So he threw a party where he could show
off his new skills. He wasn’t picky about who he invited and told
everybody to bring a friend or two. The result? A woman he’d never
met showed up. They fell in love and have been married now for two
years. But even if Brian hadn’t met his future wife that night,
hosting that party netted him plenty of invitations to others,
providing opportunities to meet many more people. A caveat: When
you plan your party, don’t exclude married friends from the guest
list. You don’t want your big night to feel like a singles’ mixer.
Instead, invite couples and encourage them to bring a
friend.
Remember, the trick to meeting new men is to break
up your routine. Step one: Put down the remote. I assure you
that the world is full of great single men like Brian who want to
meet someone special, and for one of those men, that person is
you. Seek and create new social situations. Act naturally. Smile.
Whatever you do, don’t keep twisting your neck like you’re casing
the place for a live one. Maintain eye contact with whomever
you’re talking to, whether it’s a man or a woman. Having fun is
key. When you’re having fun, you’ll attract men like a
magnet.
About The Author
(c)Terry Hernon MacDonald. The author of the ebook
"How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams," Terry Hernon
MacDonald writes frequently about dating and relationships. After
bumping her way through a series of disastrous dates and
relationships, she learned how to attract a man who makes her
happiness his first priority. They have been married for 12 years.
Visit Terry's website at http://www.marrysmart.com
terry@marrysmart.com
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