Dating Advice
Dating Tool:
Confidence 101
By Kerr Seth
Lordygan
I’m over it. “There’s plenty of fish in the sea,”
they say. Well, apparently I have been using the wrong bait.
Nobody said dating would be easy, but Hollywood sure likes to
paint it that way, doesn’t it? “There’s someone for everyone,”
they say. Maybe that ought to translate to, “There’s someone for
everyone….as long as you’re a muscled pretty boy with washboard
abs, and at least 6 feet tall.”
So how does one get by this unsettling dating
stipulation? Are we actually to believe that love will find us
when we’re not looking? I think people who say that are normally
in happy relationships when they say it. Can we “buy” outer beauty
from an online store to match our own inner beauty? Somebody is
buying pheromones and weight-loss pills and liposuction and facial
restructuring. Hell, now people even get plastic surgery to make
them look like a celebrity. Huh??? And you know what? I bet
these things work for people. As long as it can build the
confidence up in someone, it also strengthens the attraction. So
how can we build up that confidence without spending tons of money
to people who know how the game works? Sounds like a question for
the shrink.
I suppose its all part of why I started up a
matchmaking service with a friend of mine in Los Angeles. It can
be so frustrating out there. And being “alone” can only make your
work day more stressful, it seems. So if I had someone to do the
dirty work for me….get me the dating connections, counsel me on
why I might not be getting that second date, maybe my frustration
level would decrease. So I went into the business….pretty much as
a means to find out what can be done to find the perfect
one.
OK, so nobody’s perfect, but at least maybe I can
find a decent one who happens to have similar ethics as myself.
Oh, and a killer sense of humour is mandatory. But looking around,
nobody was going to help me, a fact that made me feel even more
alone! So I had to do it myself. Such is life, right? Part of it
might be that I feel a need to always be in control of my own
destiny. As long as I am actively pursuing something, I am a
success. Yea, that sounds right! So I joined forced with my cohort
and we started Let’s Meet Here. Now I’m gonna’ find the one,
right?
Wrong!
As it seems unethical to date my own clients
(damn, I knew I’d run into some roadblock!), I figured….at least
pass on any information I can gather to those who need it (and
baby, we all need it!). Granted, I am learning about all this
stuff now. It seems every date and every relationship is
completely unique. There is no list of do’s and don’ts that
applies. But I do know that going into the business has allowed me
an increase in confidence that is apparent in me without my even
having to think about it. I am starting to really believe that
success comes from the active pursuit of a goal, whether or not
the goal is achieved. The process in itself builds character…and
character is attractive.
So while I learn as I go, I will show as I go too.
It is absolutely within my own power to be a success. And the
pursuit of achievements is an achievement of its own. However, I
have also learned that a little is never enough. And to settle
after one’s success is no success at all. Maybe now I’m fishing
with the right bait!
About The Author
Kerr S. Lordygan a professional matchmaker and
business advisor, is a Relationship Director for Let's Meet Here
LLC. His efforts on behalf of relationship-minded people include
numerous positive testimonials, including praise from a recently
married couple first introduced through Kerr's guidance. An
accomplished musician and formally trained playwright, Kerr is a
veteran stage producer and featured artist at venues in Japan and
Scotland. A graduate of the University of Southern California,
Kerr is also a regularly published theater critic for several
entertainment magazines. He lives in Los Angeles. www.lets-meet-here.com
He can be contacted at KSLordygan@lets-meet-here.com
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